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What to Ask a Wedding Photographer

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Knowing what to ask a wedding photographer can be hard – most people are hiring one for the first time and they don’t know what they should be looking for unless they have a wedding planner guiding them.

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I like to start off all my client consultations with any questions that they might have for me. I do this because it lets me know what they’re looking for in their photographer and helps give me guidance on where to take the consultation. More often than not couples don’t have too many questions to start, but they think of them as we move through the conversation. However, a lot of times I’ll hear the same phrase:

“I don’t know what to ask.”

This is unsurprising, but a little worrisome. It’s unsurprising because most people have never hired a wedding photographer, or if they have the photography industry has changed quite a bit since the last time. But it’s worrisome couples aren’t prepared with research questions because it’s a big financial investment and a lot is at stake: this day only happens once so you need to know you’re making the right choice with your investment!

So this post will address some of the big topics you should cover with your photographer in your interview with them before you sign a contract and hand over any money.

1. Personality

Personality is key, and this isn’t so much a question to ask as it is something you need to be vetting. You and your future spouse are going to be spending a lot of time with your photographer, so it’s important that you all get along and like each other. As a photographer who specializes in intimate weddings, I put this above all other aspects of choosing your photographer because you’re including me on your guest list above some of your other friends and family who won’t be attending your wedding. You need to feel 100% confident that you want me there for one of the most significant moments of your life and that you can allow yourself to feel your emotions authentically in front of me, because being photographed is a vulnerable experience.

2. Artistic Style and How they Work

Every photographer has a style of working on your wedding day. Some photographers really take charge and direct the day down to the tiniest details. Others are more laid back and strictly observers. Others, like myself, are somewhere in between where they are observers for some parts of the day and directors for others.

In addition to understanding their work style, it’s important that you know about (and like!) their artistic style in capturing and editing the photos. Do they capture mostly posed imagery and heavily edit and retouch it? Are they into majority candid image captures with minimal editing? Be sure to review their portfolio and don’t be afraid to ask to see a complete wedding gallery.

3. What Do You Get For Your Investment?

Just as there are photographers who run the gambit in how they manage the day, there are a variety of offerings photographers choose when they set up their wedding day packages. Some sell just their time, with the images sold separately either as digital files or prints. Others create bundles where their time and certain products are included. I’m considered an all-inclusive photographer, where the price you pay includes my time & talent, the high-resolution images and some sort of printed product, but additional physical products are sold a la carte.

But more than understanding what is included for the price, is making sure it’s what you want. Just because a photographer includes a whole bunch of large gorgeous prints with their package doesn’t mean it’s the right value for you if what you really want is an album and loose prints won’t do anything but sit in a drawer. And a photographer who will only provide the digitals and has no means of providing any physical products might not be a good fit if you’re the kind of person who will never get around to printing your wedding images yourself. No wedding photos should be lost in #digitallimbo.

4. Ask Them About Their Experience

Definitely ask your photographer how they got into wedding photography and how long they’ve been doing it. Then ask how many weddings they’ve done. Few years doesn’t always mean less weddings and long years doesn’t always mean more weddings. My first two years of business I photographed over 30 weddings per year, and now I take on 10-20 weddings per year. So the answers to these questions will not only tell you how much experience your photographer has but also how many other clients your photographer might be dealing with at the same time as you. And as I’ve mentioned in another blog post, don’t be afraid to ask them how they will be handling your wedding-day data. Call me cheesy, but I love when clients ask me why I like photographing weddings, or what my favorite aspect of wedding photography is. It’s an opportunity for me to show off my personality and connect with them a little more and I feel like I get to be different than other wedding photographers they might be meeting with.

5. Ask Them For Their Professional Opinion

This is two-fold. Asking the prospective photographers you’re meeting with for their professional opinions about your wedding plans and how they would tackle the day is going to provide you with some options to think about as you plan AND it’s going to give you a glimpse into what it will be like to work with them. I guess it’s actually three-fold because it could also give you a window into how much experience they have with some of the situations they’ll find themselves in with the wedding plans you have so far. Sometimes I have couples that ask about First Look or no First Look and I am always very candid and forthright about why I prefer First Looks on a wedding day, even though I would never insist a couple do one if it’s not the right choice for them. I think the couples that ask this question and book with me appreciate the honesty I show and the experience I bring to the table in being able to guide them through their unique day and situation, whether they choose to follow my preferences or not.

6. Planning Steps Leading Up to the Wedding

Ask about what kind of hands on planning assistance your photographer will provide leading up to the wedding. Does your photographer just show up on the wedding day? Do you get to provide them with a list of photos you want? Will they help you find other wedding day vendors you need? These are all things that can help you figure out if you’re going to be in the hands of a qualified professional that you can trust to take care of you on your wedding day and help you create some amazing memories.

This is also a great time to ask if they’ve ever photographed at your venue or location and if not will they do a site visit with you. As an intimate wedding photographer, I often find myself at venues I’ve never been to before (like my clients’ homes or country inns). I love that I’m always at new locations and I’m always happy to do a site visit with my clients to be more prepared for the wedding day and alleviate any concerns that they have.

7. Plan B

Ask about the back up plan in the event your contracted photographer gets sick or hurt. They should be confident in explaining this to you and be able to elaborate on the details of multiple back up options. This is also a good time to ask about what happens in the event that you decide to postpone or need to cancel your wedding.

8. Read the Contract and Understand the Terms

One would think this is a no-brainer, but it can be surprising how few people fully read a contract before signing it. Contracts are actually not scary, and well-drafted ones are designed for the protection of both the client and the photographer. It’s basically going to outline the expectations of your agreement: Payment terms, the way in which the photographer will provide service, any work hazard stipulations, etc. Any photographer should be happy to talk to you about what’s in their contract and answer questions, though few will be willing to change something. Often this is because their contract has been drafted and approved by a lawyer to be in compliance with local and state laws, so changes could leave one or both parties at a huge risk. It never hurts to ask to amend a clause, but be prepared that it may not happen. The payment and delivery terms are especially clauses to take note of. These will outline when you need to remit payment and under what conditions you could receive your money back in the event of a cancellation, as well as setting the expectations for when the photographer will be delivering their end of the bargain to you.


There are other things that should be covered in an initial consultation and the photographer might guide the conversation a little bit to cover them. For example, I always ask about the tentative timeline that’s in the works so we can figure out what the best coverage options are we should be looking at. But these topics are the big ones that definitely should be addressed with every photographer you meet with.

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You sing the words to soulful songs that tell stories about all the stages of love.

You love to indulge in a good fantasy book or show.

You know who Helen Frankenthaler is without Googling it.

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